Do you struggle being too critical and judgmental? I consider myself a “recovering know it all” who used to think he knew better for everyone. That’s not the way that I wanted to live my life. I don’t remember where I heard this advice but it was transformational for me. If you want to let go of judgement and to be at peace ask yourself the following 4 questions before you speak:
- Is it True?
- Is it Kind?
- Is it Necessary?
- Is it Humble?
If you apply these questions truthfully you’ll be amazed at how quiet you’ll become. I would often pass the True test, but I’d fail on one or more of the other questions. It may be true that others misspell words or speak grammatically incorrectly but it’s not Necessary for me to say anything. I’m not an English teacher correcting a term paper, nor have I been asked to provide feedback on their writing/speech so I need to keep my mouth shut.
After you’ve practiced this for a while and you’ve had some success with it I challenge you to begin applying these questions to your thoughts. You’ll be further amazed at how unhealthy your thoughts are as well.
Good luck and I wish you well.